BJ, great advice. I have given H numbers for therapists, and once the sep. papers are signed, we go to MC. I just can't push him now.
Trying really hard to GAL and not look desperate. H made it clear he will be busy and not around this weekend - and my gut reaction was sadness, he's pulling away, etc. But I just said, "no problem, I understand."
Going to keep going with the no calls tactic, and the making my plans without him. Doesn't seem to be having any effect, but I remember it must take two weeks or more. It stings that he has no desire to be around me at all, but I'm just going to let him have it. I need to not be sitting around waiting for him to return. Drop the rope.
My technique up to this point was to be around him a lot to show my changes - but he asked for more space so I'm giving it although I still fear this is just agreeing to D and not fighting for it.
I'm writing all this down to gather support on my new tactic of pulling way back - keep me focussed people!
