Trying - you are dead on. I am completely get what you are saying and I finally had that day a little over a month ago. I told her that I accepted that she was moving. I made up my mind, that I would GAL and I started to.
The issue in my case is that W started coming back around. We spent weeks being affectionate, and occasionally LMing and sleeping in the same bed. While this was going on, she was still moving forward with her plans to move out. I was having a hard time hanging out on the couch watching TV with her, talking about what we're doing this weekend, and hugging good night (she's back in "her" room now) while she went out looking at realestate during the day.
I want to have this time to rekindle our connection, but I don't want to be "too good" with her leaving. I want her to choose me because she wants to be with me. She doesn't seem to see it as a choice right now though. She seems to think that she can have the freedom of being a single woman and still have me waiting in the wings for her at the same time. That's my dilemma.
Do I take the closeness and remain supportive or show her that she is losing me?
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
