The minute I grabbed her arm against her will, I crossed the line and it became abuse.
First time. Last time. Never again.
There are no excuses.
It was wrong.
GOOD MAN...
I will now drop it regarding that issue with you...
However...
I wish you would listen to me and stop this nonsense of "hanging in there"....
Thinker.. THAT hasn't worked. Sorry. It hasn't worked. Stop doing what isn't working.. You have been hanging in there and trying anything and everything EXCEPT.......
BE the aggresor on moving forward with her moving out...
Get a change in attitude.
NEW ATTITUDE...
"I have been doing some thinking.. Here is what I have decided...
I AM NOT DOING THIS ANYMORE.. I have decided that I want you to move out. The sooner the better. I will NOT live this way anymore. I will give you until (short but resonable time frame) to find a place and move."
AND then FOLLOW through on this new attitude....
It works far better than what you have been doing. I can give you COUNTLESS examples of men that have failed with your methods and COUNTLESS examples of men that feel SO much better when THEY take the bull by the horns and say.. ENOUGH..
Channel your anger in that direction. She will respect your anger when it is directed more toward the approach of "You are damn right I am angry. I am so angry that it is OVER between us. Now hurry up and find a place and let's split things up and move on with our lives. The sooner the better"
THAT is the attitude that wakes them up and can turn things around....
