Hi whatdidido. I would like to apologize for my abrumpt earlier post. i stand by what I said, I just think if I had more time I could have said it with more care...
You have done a tremendous thing in ending your affair..many people don't...and they do pay dearly for it trust me. I was reading on the DrPhil website ... He claims that the success rate for long term relationships of affair couples (couples who cheat, abandon the spouse, and run off together ) is LESS than ONE PERCENT!!!
So of ALL the people who cheat and run off with their affair partner...more than 99 percent of those affairs do NOT pan out long term...
If anyone needs a big red light that's a gift right there to let you know it was a good idea.
Seriously...if this guy is calling you NOW...he's still sexually exploiting you...
If you are going to fantasize, make it someone unreachable who could at least in your fantasy be WORTHY...this GUY is a CREEP!!!
He's calling you ..I know he just "said" he wanted to know how you were or whatever..but what he is PRODDING FOR..is information on how vulnerable you are to start up again...
He would NOT have called to find out how you are...he would know that would do more DAMAGE ...he CLEARLY does NOT care about your marriage or he would not have tried to contact you again...
DONT FALL FOR HIS BS about moving on..he clearly hasn't...and he wanted YOU to know that he hasnt and he wants to know if YOU still are SEXUALLY EXPLOITABLE...he is testing for weakness in you..
HE IS A SEXUAL PREDATOR
And he belongs in JAIL.
Stay away from this creep...do you want your SON near someone like this? Seriously?
Men and women who sexually exploit people in vulnerable marriages are like only a couple steps up from child molesters and rapists...its akin in my mind to date rape or taking advantage of someone who's very drunk...its disghusting..
I really think you need to try to get this into your head how sleazy he's been..and even STILL is...the signals are there...
