I don't know what to do..help!

[ClingingToHope]

In fact, don't you need some space to figure thing outs and be independent? are you sure you love her? or do you love her but you arent in love with her? think about it.

I read a book after moving out, "The Power of Now," by Eckhart Tolles. One of his chapters dealt with relationships and his point was many people aren't actually in love with their spouse, they are "addicted" to being in a relationship.

That's what I'm still trying to find out. I miss the comfort and ease a family gives me, but do I actually miss my W as a person.

I definitely don't miss the W of the past three years. She would have to be willing to meet me in the middle on things and she hasn't done that in a long time.

So while you are giving her space, think that over. Here's another tip. Become a student of your W. Start a journal where you right down things you remember about her -- her childhood, your earliest dates, her family. If you have gaps, look for ways to fill in the blanks in everyday conversations.

It gives you something different to talk about. Don't be obvious and pester her. Look for subtle opportunities. It'll help you be closer to her while you are actually leaving her alone.