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[ClingingToHope]

Yes. I wanted to be the super husband who never needed help. I smothered her big time. And when it I didn't get what I wanted -- the happily ever after continual romance, which doesn't exist -- I'd withdraw and get angry for a few days. Then I'd go back to Mr. Perfect.

I see it so clearly now. I had too much pride to ask for help and I'd read magazine articles about how you had to stay close to your spouse, be romantic. That just made things worse.

I'm really struggling with whether I should offer my W a low-cost divorce, put the ball in her court, or wait things out through the winter. I haven't really used the LRT consistently. I've tried to talk her into counseling four times in five months.

I think perhaps I should at least give it through my lease here, end of January, with the NC except for important kids stuff. I've got it set up where I almost never have to see her because I can pick the kids up when she's not there and put them on the bus in the morning without having to go over there.

You said it was two months with your H and all of a sudden there he was.