Nonetheless-- and this is VITAL-- she is not doing this to you! She is not doing this to you any more than an alcoholic is drinking "to" their spouse. She is involved in this because of her own issues.
Concur (at least to the degree that this is a much-overlooked *factor* in these situations). Absolutely excellent, and would that it were more widely discussed and understood.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
