Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Agreed! (Edited: Agreeing With Gucci - took a while for this to get posted and some other posts came in the meantime)

The minute I grabbed her arm against her will, I crossed the line and it became abuse.

First time. Last time. Never again.

There are no excuses.

It was wrong.

I take full responsibility for correcting the situation, and ensuring it doesn't happen ever again in ANY R that I am in.

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I think the distinction the people who have been following for a while are making is that this is not a long term abusive R.

I would actually characterize the long term R (since early in the M) as NEGLECT. No abuse, no control - I just wasn't there. I was working and she was on her own.

Control appeared much more recently - In the past year I shifted my focus from work to my R. My control issues came with it. I've been working on resolving my issue with releasing control for the past 5 months or so. It has taken a while to see it for really what it is and how damaging it is.

Anger is new - probably already there deep within, but only recently coming to the surface. Due to it's nature, however, this one has to go away NOW.