She doesn't love me anymore...or does she?

[Ready2Change]

I too was frustrated on this board because there are one or two folks who keep insisting my wife is having an affair. I just don't understand why some jump right to that conclusion everytime.

They jump to that conclusion because the truth of most sitch is that S is in an affair. They have read enough threads and watched it unfold.

Do you want to know how many time I have read this: "My S said she is not having an affair and I believe her"? I said that. What(Who) gave my spouse the courage to rip my family apart? I did not snoop. I worked on me. Truth will come with time. I heard this line from people "I saw her with him". Did she have an A? I now believe so. With that said, I am the only one on this board that did not say "O my god, i was snooping and my W is having an affair!".

Be prepared for the worse, and hope/pray/believe for the best.

Amazing how the woman that you love can look you in the eye stone faced and that she doesn't love you anymore.

They have been seduced by someone else. Question all your belief's. Make positive change to YOU. Find your MOJO and become sexy again.

Holy S$%t, are you kidding? I just don't get it.

Now you know EVERYTHING about your W. The blinders are off. This is a confusing time. Take the opportunity to work on YOU.

I am following the advice of being happy and cordial but not talking too much, but I really haven't got a clue on what to do to actually appeal to her.

I committed to personal growth. The self help section of the book store is great. I listed my favorite books on first post of my thread.

I really believe (without anything concrete to base it on) that W is having regrets about being "a wife" and "a mother" and not feeling successful as an individual.

Quit possible. My wife believed that getting married would "Make her happy". My wife believed having kids would "make her happy". My wife believed that D me would make her happy. MsR2C is NOT HAPPY. Happiness comes from within. I am happy. I do not put my happiness in other peoples hands. (YES I learned this from going through this process)

If you LOVE her, set her free to find her happiness. Give her space to miss you. Do not pressure her. She will focus on you and blame you for her unhappiness.