"How can I positively get us going in the right direction?"
read the posts on this site. anyone who has been at this for over a year and still has'nt resolved their marital issues. Do the complete opposite of what they are doing. and while you are reading take notes of the things their spouses do and say that affect them enough to post about them on this site. if you play your cards right, in time, you may be able to use that to effectively turn your wife around and have her pursuing you.
"During the discussion a couple of weeks ago she never mentioned divorce or separation"
you dont hear that until they have all their ducks in a row. its a mean cruel world out there. smart women do not jump ship they walk off the dock gracefully and right into the Hilton.
"Told me in August that she needed space, which I'm sure I failed at providing."
For now respect her request. In fact, don't you need some space to figure thing outs and be independent? are you sure you love her? or do you love her but you arent in love with her? think about it.
