I'm not going to get into a pissing match with you, Gucci. There is a difference between one incident of "abuse" and a pattern of "abusIVE" (the word I used) behavior.
Thinker knows he was way the hell out of line. Finis. It scared him, and it damned well should have. But one incident doesn't define the dynamic of the whole relationship, nor should he fixate on that when deciding what to do going forward, other than remaining *quite humbly aware* of the power of emotion and the potential of EVERY human for violence under the influence.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert