Hey Tal, Your last post is exactly how I feel. My sitch is almost to the T like yours. I'm having a real rough time trusting, but he is not acting now like he was when he was in the A. Still...that does not mean he's not talking to her. All I have to go on is his word and that has not been good in the past. I want to stop feeling like this-I want for the stuff that makes me doubt to stop happening. My H is not quite as accomodating as yours when it comes to the reassurance. He's getting frustrated at all my suspicions. I have been talking to him about them alot lately, but after what I've been through I'd think he would do whatever it took to help me be reassured he's not lieing again. Do we just forget it and go on? What if we can't forget it? I guess we have to look at their actions too. My H like yours is acting like he wants our M to work. He is telling me he loves me and is showing me with his actions as well. Still.....he has not said he wants to come home yet. I don't pressure him about that at all. Our son is not ready for him to come home. He does not want to go through it all again-him coming home then leaving again. I can't blame him. Tal, how do you plan to get past your suspicions? Do you feel the need to know for sure if he is telling the truth this time? I'm really struggling with this. I posted in detail on my thread-RMC. You seem to really be working through this well, but I know how doubt creeps in and makes you crazy. I really hate this....... Rachael
