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I have read plenty of compassionate validating from Thinker. He has been doing The Work. Mrs. Thinker has not.


What if "Mrs. Thinker" doesnt want to do any work? Does she even have to? Just because Thinker likes to post on this site doesnt necessarily make his wife accountable to have to work on their marriage. He can be compassionate and validate all he wants but at some point it has gone on too long; And I am not sure it matters whose the victim or who is at fault any longer.

There is an old saying that is usable in this situation. It goes "$hit or get off the pot."

This situation has been going on for what, almost two years. "The Work" hasnt worked. Mrs. Thinker could just be through, fed up, sick of watching Thinker flunk out at trying to figure her out. 11 months with no change. Hate to tell you this, she aint never gonna change.

but all that is restating the obvious. Thinker asked,

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LET HER GO... LET HER GO.

except...

I don't really know what that means.


there is a section in Michelle's book, Self-limiting belief #2: "How can a minor thing like developing a hobby help me when my problems are major?"

She asks a series of questions, think about that section and qustions for a while. take the focus off of your wife, your marriage and doing The Work. and you should begin to understand.