Tal, I understand what you mean when you say you know it in your head, but your heart is slow to except what the head knows. I saw your posts when you first found out about the cell bills. You had alot of anger at him. What dispelled that? Did you decide not to confront him? I guess I'm just not to the place where I can let go of the thoguhts of him lying to me. It's not the kind of R I want. I want to be able to trust him. I also love him so much I've taken the lies and believed him yet one more time. I am not prepared to leave him if he is lying, but I still think I need to know. It remains to be seen what I do with the information if its what I fear it is. Rachael