Going dark does get easier. Takes real work on your part at the beginning. Dont have any expectations. Dont look for little signs that its working, thats counterproductive and keeps you on the rollercoaster. If you DO backslide and get in a r talk or get needy, learn from it and move on. Dont dwell on it or try to "fix" it with her. Right now its about you. Doesnt mean you're giving up on her, just giving her the space she wants. Taking the time you need to work on yourself. When youre having a bad day, vent here, not at her.
