Over the Shock and GALing 6

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Thinker,


I can feel it in your posts now that I look back. your wife feels it to because she has lived with it. lived with your worries your fear your anger and your controling behavior. Let her go! Validate her. Compassionatly!! i've not felt a single whisper of compassion from you Just more of the same. Worry---Fear--->Anger--->Control.


JJ

I have read plenty of compassionate validating from Thinker. He has been doing The Work. Mrs. Thinker has not. And when together they made the decision to go to the Marriage Emergency Room (Retro), she refused treatment. I agree he should let her go - as in "if you are miserable in this M, get going - move out, file...be a Big Girl." He can protect himself legally and still work on the M. He can insist on her being a Big Girl and still work on the M. But I believe she needs to be held accountable for the WORDS she s throwing around - to the C, to Thinker...if he is so awful, then she needs to get out of there. FWIW - I don't think she will leave...and she'll say that's his fault, too. She oozes Victim.

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