I have been following your sitch but didn't have any new insights to post. I agree with the other feedback you've been getting that there seems to be a lot of small, forward movement. It is good that you had the realization about passing the 6 month mark. I think that you should celebrate that somehow. Treat yourself to something special. You have done an honorable thing in standing for your M. We all here recognize that. Your children are watching and learning from you.
I think your C's advice to begin slowly pushing into your W's space is excellent and your approach in doing so seems right on. I LOVED what you did in putting the note in your W's car for her. You are doing a series of experiments and collecting outcomes data. I also REALLY like the ideas of gently putting hand on the small of W's back as you try to move past her to get something that you don't need (BRILLIANT!). Her response to these gestures tells you more about W's REAL thoughts than any words she might say.
