Hi Tal, I don't think I ever posted to you before, but I was reading your thread and man, did it hit home. I just had to write you. How long was you H in an A with this woman? My H too has told me repeatedly that he has broken contact with the OW and later admits he has talked to her sometimes. Since we have been back together this time (he has not moved back home,but we are definately back together) he SWEARS he has not had ANY contact with her. It is eating at me Tal. My friend has a way to get his cell bills. She got her H's and has found out all kinds of things. I need to know. It is so hard to trust them at all when they just keep lying to us! I suspect because I cannot imagine her (OW)not contacting him after all the time they have been talking. He had a long term A with her and supposedly has not slept with her for a long time but has talked to her and had lunch with her one time that he told me of. Why do they lie like this??? What are they doing talking to them if it's us they want to be with? I think they want to cut the contact off but there might be some kind of addiction there. I don't think it's worth ending the R over, but somehow, someway they HAVE to stop talking to this person. You will have to confront him of course. You can't keep something like this inside. I suggest waiting unti you have seriously thought about the right way to go about it and then ask for what you need. He will feel plenty guilty for lying to you I'm sure. I don't get it Kal, but its obvious they want us. Why they can't let comepletely go of the OW I have no idea. All I know is they have to for the M to work. Good luck-I know you'll do the right thing. Rachael
