Isn't there some decoder ring I can get to tell me what to do? Seriously, I keep doing the wrong thing and I'm not even sure if there's a right thing anymore.
And how do I smooth this one over?
decoder ring? you get that in a box of cereal. it doesnt help with marital problems. it helps to find the silly rabbit in the picture on the back of the box. thats it.
this works, STOP ARGUING. STOP TRYING TO BE RIGHT. GIVE HER WHATS SHES ASKING FOR RIGHT NOW.
my daddy gave me this information when i was young and i am going to pass it onto you because you need it. Dont argue with a woman. The more you try to convince them that you are right the more they are going to disagree with you.
Do you see that happening in your situation? I do....
You have a conversation. The two of you disagree. It turns into a arguement. Then you say something stupid. You have to stop that. Its getting you nowhere and now you are asking about decoder rings.
Answer is: Woman are beautiful and complex creatures. They are not for figuring out. They are for making happy. You are not making your wife happy.
Solution, give her what she wants, space, time, stop arguing with her. Take the next 30 to 45 days to move on in a positive direction in your life. Move on. Reduce your contact and communication with her. When you do talk with her stop reminding her about the situation and how you feel. Dont be stupid and tell her that you are done or moving on with your life. Just make yourself busy and make your self happy. If she has a gripe about you, so what? If she throws a punch at you, take it. What are you going to gain telling her you feel like a punching bag. Truth is YOU ARE. Your marriage is messed up, your wife is upset, pissed off, confused. Swallow your pride and take the punch. In the mean time, do things that keep you busy and happy. Stop pestering her with text messages and phone calls. Let her figure out what she needs to figure out and contact you when she needs to then just listen to her.