Hey FIB, Read your first post....sounds like you battled.....hard. The similarities in sitches with our XWs are so.....eerie. I am missing the middle chapters but i am guessing there is or was another man. I want to add another line or catch phrase (that i repeated to myself): No person regardless of how wonderful they are has the power to affect my life so negativelly. That is not really a catch phrase at all.... "Her loss" probably qualifies......that boys and girls I really believe. Don't loose the optimism my friend....there are better days ahead. Yes the WAS lingers in your system but you have also stayed in hers...guaranteed. Finally, "People meet new people and fall in love again." Why not YOU FIB?