Been busy, lots going on at work plus working towards the house sale closing. All in all, things are fine. I have found a place to live, been enjoying my time with S, and just doing my thing. Only have seen WAW a few times in the past few weeks. Talk occasionally. She is pretty clearly having some tough times, but that is out of my focus and attention.
This was my weekend with S, and last night W came over and we all grabbed dinner at our favorite local Mexican joint. We had just been chit chatting about day-to-day stuff, nothing about the R or the sitch. At dinner, she started talking about stuff and getting emotional, tears in her eyes stuff. She commented on how happy S is when he is with me and how close and well he and I are doing. I said the events of the past 6 months have been positive in many ways improve myself and my relationships. Didn't get into that talk much; didn't want to.
She had been very stressed with some stuff going on at her work (on top of our separation and everything). When they left, I said she knows my # if she ever wants to talk or vent about work stuff, that I would be happy to listen. Doubt she will take me up on that now, but I put it out there.
We'll see where this all goes, but I am for sure doing well and focusing on what I can control. Sure, I get mad sometimes at "what she has done" but I am not going to dwell on it. I'm going to be fine. I just am keeping the PMA and not thinking much about the "sad" part of this all.
H35 W34 S4 | T-10 yrs M-6 yrs WAW said M over 04/09 | Living separate since 09/09 Thread #1 Thread #2 Thread #3
Today is the closing on the sale of the house. Last week been swamped at work and my move to my new place. After today, things will settle down I hope!
The other day WAW suggested we go out to lunch after the closing, which I said sounded good. Now I am tempted to say I changed my mind, but that is probably a bit of a jerk move.
We really have not talked much in the past month, other than "business" of house and kid. Occasionally she talks about how hard a time she has had at work, and hints at having a hard time with this all.
H35 W34 S4 | T-10 yrs M-6 yrs WAW said M over 04/09 | Living separate since 09/09 Thread #1 Thread #2 Thread #3
Today is the closing on the sale of the house. Last week been swamped at work and my move to my new place. After today, things will settle down I hope!
The other day WAW suggested we go out to lunch after the closing, which I said sounded good. Now I am tempted to say I changed my mind, but that is probably a bit of a jerk move.
We really have not talked much in the past month, other than "business" of house and kid. Occasionally she talks about how hard a time she has had at work, and hints at having a hard time with this all.
Pretty good. I know I am focused on tasks right now and probably avoiding and repressing some anger/sadness, but I am pretty fine. That is what DB is all about - and I think I will be a success story no matter what because I know I have done what I can and done the right things.
H35 W34 S4 | T-10 yrs M-6 yrs WAW said M over 04/09 | Living separate since 09/09 Thread #1 Thread #2 Thread #3
Had a nice lunch after closing, kind of emotional for both of us. Nice to see WAW share those feelings, even if I don't like everything she says.
She just texted me after lunch, saying "Was thinking what a nice house we would have had for S with a $x down payment." I certainly was thinking the same thing. Wonder what I should respond to her with?
H35 W34 S4 | T-10 yrs M-6 yrs WAW said M over 04/09 | Living separate since 09/09 Thread #1 Thread #2 Thread #3
