i really dont have an answer as to why these things keep happening. the only thing i can offer is that because of the crap that we have all been through we all seem to be a bit more sensitive to the warning signs (i say a bit, but i know it's more) and because they have done it once, it's only natural that we feel that they can do it again
that is where the whole "actions speak louder than words" come in. you said it yourself that the way you and wolfie are today doesn't jive with the insecurities, so i say to take things at face value, and just work on the bad feelings
you and wolfie have a good foundation for a new relationship, work on that
