Sorry, we're closed. Under new management.

[faithisbelieving]

Do you think, deep down, that you were the best man for her? If you do, then whoever else she finds will pale in comparison and she'll eventually realize it. That should give you peace.

To CTH....funny. I thought about your comment all night long. I also note that you are a 'youngling' here (forgive the Star Wars term). I remember....having all those feelings in the beginning, those catch phrases that we all love to post to ease our initial pain:
-she'll regret it
-it's a bandaid
-she'll never find anyone like you
-one day they will regret what they did

Yada yada yada.

The sad fact is: women can lose attraction. People change and grow apart. People meet new people and fall in love again.

There will never be any antidote for the disease of feeling rejected. Nor will there be any ONE explanation for how any of us got here. As my atty told me last night, USUALLY, TWO PEOPLE CONTRIBUTE to the demise of the marriage. Two. Sadly, one person usually paints the other with a darker brush stroke in order to validate their reasons for departing.

We go through so many phases to try and feel better about this:
-we vindicate ourselves and call the OP crazy, alien, sick, etc.
-we envision ourselves as the only person 'right' for the other person
-we deny our pain and live in a false hope place.....we await the marital messiah to arrive....the land flowing with milk and honey and hope for reconciliation...a place where our WAS's wake up and say, "honey, I'm home. I made such a terrible mistake and I love you and want to come back and build that wonderful marriage that we read about."

Loss of love, rejection, divorce and loss of time with our children.....is a terrible thing. It happens. Sadly, too frequently.

I still stand here and say it BEHOOVES us to try and save our marriages. How long one chooses to stand....is a personal call. I pray, CTH, that YOU ....will be one of the fortunate.

I pray.

FIB