Okay, I will admit I felt avenged, I did to her what she did to me!!
Well...your being honest.
Originally Posted By: Augtan
I want him to believe I have changed and am not vengeful, vindictive or mean. I want him to see for himself what he is missing and want everything to happen for the right reasons. I don't want anything because of black mail or because I told and he lost her and resents me!!
You have work to do. Go back and reread your first quote. You either forgive or you don't. There are no shortcuts or tricks here. NO HALFWAY'S....you either focus on you and become better learn what forgiveness and what this whole crisis mess is really about or forget it.
And take your focus off of this other woman. She is NOTHING. Anyone who gets involved with a person caught up in a confused mess such as a crisis is just as screwed up as the person having it. Stop giving her power. You are making her stronger.
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He is the picture of a MLC, I could spend hours explaining, but I know at some point he is going to snap out of this.
He probably will and as of right now, YOU aren't ready for him to snap out of it.
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When this happens it will most likey be too late, as I am not waiting around. He did so many awful things to me I don't think I want him back for me, but I want him in my kids life by moving here to watch them grow-up. He was a great husband and wonderful Dad till he got involved with her, it was like an alien abduction!! HELP!!
Read your words above. They are full of contradications. You want help, but in the next breath you say it's too late I'm moving on.
You either want this or you don't.....do this or you don't.
If so, then have work to do on YOU. Get your focus where it belongs.
