it is hard to detach. I am having troubles doing this myself. One thing that I have found to help out with the process is to call a good friend instead of the spouse. Another activity that I have used is to jump on here and read or type. Pretty much use anything and everything to destract yourself. Another thing that may help, and I just thought of this but have not put it to use myself yet.... Start a book of letters to the other spouse. Now I think this could be useful to get out all the feelings of anger desperation hurt.... anything at all! I have wriiten a few to my H... It does help.
Good luck detaching it is no easy task. If it helps think of the negative about the other spouse. hHonestly the more pissed off you are the easier it is.
t=5.5yrs m=4 kids=4 (8,9,10,&11) I dropped the bomb 10-09 regaining myself in house seperation 9-6-09 divorce final 4-19-10 Moved out 9-17-09
