I'm still put off by the statement from the therapist that if you feel like a victim, then you will react with violence. What about her? She feels like the victim, doesn't that put you in danger from her potential violence?
The statement put me off as well - believe me. It puts me in a position of never being able to speak up about anything she does.
I am tired right now. I'm not angry any more (well, maybe a little in there somewhere), but mostly I am just overwhelmed.
Last night I decided to leave for the weekend. Not angrily - I want to spend some time away, and it gives my w some space. I'm still not sure where I am going to go. I don't want to go visit family because that would get my family involved in this mess, and I don't want that.
This morning I hugged her (with her permission), told her I was going to go away for the weekend (she nodded yes). I also told her that if she want's to move out, or proceed with a D, talk to a mediator, then I would support her. I'll help work with the kids to make it as less painful as possible for them, etc.
I said I'm not kicking her out, but she is free to go.
Last edited by Thinker; 10/16/0912:26 PM.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.