I just CANNOT get the picture of you and H making a total FOOL of OW at work...and then them still being involved???
Is this woman THAT pitiful???
All I can tell you, Tal, is that when I found out OW was still around (three months after it was "over for sure") I was just flabbergasted!!
We too had been to counselling, he'd lied AGAIN to our C, to me, to both our families!!! I sincerely thought he'd lost his mind. I felt like I'D entered the Twilight Zone.
But here's his story (take anything that may fit)...they broke up on Nov 28th but contact started again within 2 days (she says it was him...he says it was her...whatever)
I'm sure at first CJ was more drawn to her (his "love") than me (the old ball and chain) but slowly over the next several weeks by DB efforts were paying off and CJ started leaning back in my direction.
He tried several times to break it off with her...but she was just insidious! She even called our house a few times when I MIGHT have been home just to scare him!
She'd say WHACKED stuff like: You can stay with S, but why can't we still be "friends"? You can travel up here to visit me? You can get your vasectomy reversed and impregnate me!...She would tell him all about the guys chasing her...even started dating a fellow seriously (all the while her H and two small boys are at home without her)...still insisting that she "couldn't lose him"....
She saw NOTHING wrong with them having a long distance affair while having "real" Rs at the same time!!! And she thought nothing of calling me up (again) and blowing the lid off of everything (again) when CJ told her that was IT on Feb 24th.
CJ was TERRIFIED that I would find out the entanglement hadn't ended when I thought it did. He was CONVINCED that would be the final straw and his A$$ would be out the door.
He was SOOOOO relieved when it all came out and the contact with OW stopped right then...she had NOTHING left to hold over our heads.
