one of the things that my husband always told me is that i never asked the RIGHT question. but then again tal, how do we ever know the right question
i am so sorry you are going thru this right now, but if what was said was actually what you wrote "are you still talking to her" i could see how his answer could be NO and he would mean it if it was in the context of HIS mind that he is only answering as far as since he has been home.
i am with the others - get your pma up and then approach him with this. what have you got to lose?