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[sage]

Tal --

arrrgh. I am so sorry that you are going thru this. And I'm sorry that Wolfie is acting like a rat fink.

I think that Ellie, Pam, et al gave you some great advice. If you could approach it with him when your PMA is high and do it in a non-accusatory way...easier said than done.

I dunno...here's what my gut tells me...that at least in my case, ow was still around long after he said she was. I think that she gradually started being diminished as I gained his attention and energy...I think the pull of the fear (of being alone, of being unloved) makes them keep ow around...like, can I really believe that this person still loves me, will truly forgive me? Maybe I should keep that safety net, JIC. Well..that doesn't make it any more palatable, does it? And why can't they see how much HARDER it is to reconnect with them around? Take you hands off the safety wire, folks!

Actually...if you can do it...my suggestion is this...DB your butt off...all the stuff that was working before W. moved home...keep an eye on things/Wolfie's reactions (w/o driving yourself nutty!)...but don't confront right now.

My two cents. Don't know what I would do if I found that h was still talking with ow now...but I think you have time and proximity, etc, on your side.

Sage