She Lost Her Love For Me - Now What?

[Kettricken]

I know you are trying, and kudos to you for that. That hug thing .... (shakes head) .... you are going to *have* to discipline yourself out of doing things like that.

1. Hello, it's pressure. You asked for something intimate that she didn't freely offer. She shouldn't have had to tell you that.

2. It's needy. Speaking as a woman, for 9 out of 10 of us, that is a big-time turnoff.

And listen to yourself, man. You say you want her to be happy. But most of this post is about what YOU want from HER. A hug, her company. It's not wrong to want those things, but you need to be clear. Right now, you are pursuing *what you want* emotionally FROM HER. Not what she wants for herself. Not what you want to generate in your own life as an independent man. Is it any wonder she feels pursued and pressured?

Try this. Just for tomorrow. Treat her as you would a co-worker that you had a good, friendly working relationship with. Respect the same personal boundaries you would in that situation (no touching, no pursuit for personal time, just friendly conversation and banter about subjects of mutual interest.) Try it.

Don't get discouraged. You are trying to make some major changes in the way you approach your relationship, and it will take time.