However for me this kind of sounds the death bell for our marriage. Not sure if anybody has brought their marriage back from this sort of situation or this far gone?
Oh please. What, you think you're special? This happens all the time!
My wife told me she HATED me, told her OM that she would rather DIE that remain married to me, and she told her parents they needed "to just get over it."
Right now, I'm looking across the sectional couch at her, and she's giving me a nice smile, after we just had a nice 45-minute talk about her work sitch. We exchange "ILYs" daily, and our sex life has never been better.
It CAN be done. And as Coach would say, "You can handle it."