W wants to separate

[LTD]

Your wife's actions remind me of things I've seen my wife do. Namely, she's cordial as long as she thinks you're doing exactly what she wants you to do. When you don't agree with with her, you get an angry reaction where you're accused of being selfish.

Now that you've made your stand, I would recommend sticking by it. Don't totally disregard everything she said though. Judging by your screen name, I'd guess she's told you repeatedly that you're not a good listener. If she says you're never there and you don't do anything around the house, try being around more and pitching in around the house, etc. Work on being a good listener.

The thing she needs to realize though, is that there is a difference between listening to her and understanding her versus doing exactly what she wants because that's what she told you she wants. It's your marriage, too. It's your house, too. Needing to see if she misses you when you're gone isn't a good reason for you to leave your family, in my opinion.

Stay strong, read other posts and other people's situations on here (if you have time, I learn things all the time), and read books about the subject.