Okay, my story is way to long to type here, but jist is..XH had affair, caught him, went to therapy, he moved out, moved back in, went back to her (I didn't really know), moved out again, still slept together some, moved with my kids out of state, D was final, find out he is forsure with her...
So, he came up here to see the kids, it was our wedding anniversary while he was here, we spent the day talking about everything, crying, yelling, fighting, crying more, holding each other, almost slept together but he had to go pick up our daughter. The next night I went to his hotel and we had sex, he resisted some but he wanted to just as much as I did. Okay, I will admit I felt avenged, I did to her what she did to me!! I told him I would never tell, but I know if I did it would end their relationship which is what I want so badly. First and formost for my kids, they want nothing to do with her and know what she did and will never accept it. Plus, he would have no reason to stay where he is and he could move to be near our kids. Also, because I hate her and she deserves it. I know he is to blame, but as a woman I cannot help but know she could have stopped it and didn't, she chose to destroy a family. I don't want to tell for a lot of reasons too. She probably won't believe me and he will be sooo mad at me. Also, I want him to believe I have changed and am not vengeful, vindictive or mean. I want him to see for himself what he is missing and want everything to happen for the right reasons. I don't want anything because of black mail or because I told and he lost her and resents me!!
He is the picture of a MLC, I could spend hours explaining, but I know at some point he is going to snap out of this. When this happens it will most likey be too late, as I am not waiting around. He did so many awful things to me I don't think I want him back for me, but I want him in my kids life by moving here to watch them grow-up. He was a great husband and wonderful Dad till he got involved with her, it was like an alien abduction!! HELP!!
ME-39 XH-42 married-17 1/2 years together-21 D-16 S-14 D-10 Divorced since May
Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
