W wants to separate

[notagoodlistener]

I'm hurting so bad. So today is my 5th anniversary. Tonight I followed your advice. I did buy her flowers and have them sent to her work with no card. She texted me saying the were the best flowers she's ever gotten. I didn't reply. An hour later she texted me again asking if I got her text. I didn't reply. 2 hours later she called me and asked if everything was alright. I just said yes and kept it short and that I'm glad she liked the flowers. Then, tonight she came home and gave me a hug and thanked me for the flowers and it felt so good. We were talking and playing with our daughter before putting her to bed. Then we were hanging out in the kitchen and she was making us some pasta real quick and she brought up when I was moving. I wasn't going to breach the topic tonight because I didn't want to ruin the vibe, but I said I didn't think I should move out based on the situation. I said that I disagree with it and don't want to enable the separation. She said that it just confirms me not being able to do anything she asks for etc. etc. She said she was so angry with me that she needs the separation to see if she even misses me when I'm gone because right now she doesn't. She was saying how she does everything around the house blah blah blah. I just said that I'm trying to do what I think is right and you are trying to walk all over me and I don't want to support it. Man, it was so hard. Needless to say she stormed out of the house and took off and the conversation ended right there after she said fine, I'm taking D2 and we're going and we're not paying you sh*t for the mortgage or anything. Your never here anyway and I can't believe you. Slammed the door and took off. I stupidly tried to call her a couple minutes later in the heat of the moment but she didn't answer which is probably a good thing.

Somebody talk me down. Did I do the right thing? I had written a heart felt letter that I was going to give her tonight too and everything. I'm so distraught right now. I also feel like calling her parents and explaining why I made the decision I did. They had helped us out alot and my parents have done very little because they don't have any money. I feel like they think it is rightfully hers or something. I'll find a way to pay the mortgage myself though. I can make it work if I budget wisely. Have I done the right thing? Have I now pushed her over the top? Now I fear she'll never agree to counseling or ever even want to see me again! AHHHHH!