Today was a fairly balanced day. I was sad when my FIL emailed me to say my W came to their house last night sad, confussed and angry (see above).
He continued to email me saying that this is part of the process. I replied that it is a process I don't want to be part of, the divorce process. His reply was that it is only a process, it may or may not end in divorce. I don't think he knows anything, but he told me that hoping was good.
I met with my counselor today and he feels everything I have done with DB, including the words I said last night, were good. He said the toughest part is staying the course...he's right. He encouraged me to continue to do what I am doing.
Everyone says that. You're doing an amazing job, you have the right approach, etc... Sometimes I just want someone to say "you're doing it all wrong" or "you need to do this". I do agree that there is little else I can do; but I also know that this is tough. You all know that too.
I was told, today, that she is considering meeting with a mutual friend, a former teacher of both of ours, to talk. This teacher went through a divorce involving and affair and her desire to be independent. She said it wasn't the smartest thing she ever did...so I am hoping a woman with a similar perspective will help my W. I'm not saying she is wrong, I just think it helps to hear from people that have expereince in this. I know it has helped me with the issues of abuse as a child..it amazes me how many people are willing to talk about their abuse so openly.
Well, back to watch "A bugs Life" with the kids. I really do enjoy this time with them, I just wish it was our entire family enjoying this time and not just "my turn" with them.
