Wifey is giving you good practical advice. You should also remember that at the end of the day if you want to reconcile with your S, you must be attractive to her. Not only physically but by behaviour as well. What you say and do.
You have a lot of anger in you that you need to rid yourself of in a healthy way. You will not be ready for a healthy relationship with your W until you resolve the anger you feel towards her. The anger is natural but letting it get out of control is dangerous. Find a way to deal with it as Wifey suggests. Get it out and find the cool in you.
Really let go while you pray. Your W is not a possession but a grown woman who will make her own choices whether you agree with them or not.
How does focusing on OM help you move on with your life? LBS give OP too much mental energy. Don't.
