I just hope it doesn't cause him to feel even more reason to D because of the NC.
No, it won't cause him more reason for a D. I agree with your C, I think that he uses showing his anger to control you. You have said enough in your posts to indicate how you judge every action based on whether or not it will make him angry. That is not the way to live life! How miserable that would be--to be M to a person that you had to worry if he was going to be angry with your all the time.
A week on NC feels like a long time to you, but it isn't much at all. He needs to "miss" you and the only way is NC.....and it will take time for it to start hitting him how much he misses you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
