All of the responses I am getting are saying that my wife is having an affair. I will admit that I don't know what goes on when I'm not here, but the discussion that I had with my wife when she told me she doesnt love me would have been perfect time for her to be honest, as I ask her if there was an OM. I'm not feeling like I'm being naive, just that I feel like I know my wife....now that sounds naive huh?

I appreciate the help and input from everyone here, but I am struggling when and where to apply the different recommendations. UGH! I feel like I can look my W in the eye an tell that she's being truthful, but this whole situation is so mind boggling I can't even put it into words!