Mishka you have a great sense of humor. GIMA, thanks for checking in.
Big news today in my sitch! I spoke today with a reliable source who told me that my H has just been dumped by a 2nd woman he was dating!!!! Apparently they had been dating for about 2 weeks or so. My source said that H was interested and happy with this woman. They had plans to do something last saturday but on friday evening she phoned him, canceled the plans, and told him that she didn't want to see him again. It now makes sense why H had become more distant the past few weeks.
This would be the 2nd time he has been "dumped" by a woman in the last 6 weeks. H had been irritable and stressed around me (manifestation of his depression) but I never knew whether he acted this way around others. It seems that he is having trouble relating to new women which makes me think he may be irritable and depressed around/with them as well????? The first woman "dumped" him in a 3-4 page e-mail (kinda harsh, isn't that????? like Carrie Bradshaw being dumped in a post-it note??????) and the 2nd woman did it in a phone conversation. I don't know what reasons either woman gave, but I would think H would be smarting from this. My source said "Your H needs a friend right now. You can be his friend." I agree that this is the DB-way and an opening for me. I just have to vent here and say what the %&*#$ is wrong with H that he seems SOOOOOO anxious to BE in a relationship but hasn't figured out that ALLLLLLLL relationships require work at times. Does he plan to just go from one relationship to the next for the next 40 years like a bumblebee going from flower to flower?????????
My source said their instincts tell them that H is probably beginning to have 2nd thoughts. H's sister just arrived in town for a 4 day visit. She is staying with H in his new house I think. I respond to the e-mail H sent me today and send him photos I took of his mother and "our" little girl (my cat) last night. H's sister invited me to lunch on saturday so I will be re-reading Ali's suggestions before then. I have a DB coaching session just before saturday lunch.
H and SIL will likely be driving by my (our previous) house since it is not too far from H's house. I have decorated the front of the house and am carving pumpkins to put out too. Wanna make the house look warm and inviting!
