I posted in the newcomers but needed advice

[Arwen_in_NJ]

Let me get this straight.

He drinks. He treats you like sh*t. He leaves and you take him back. He wants to have sex and you accommodate him whenever he wants it.

And you think if you kick him out it would be bad for the kids? As if having him in the house isn't already bad for the kids???

Your husband sounds like an emotionally abusive alcoholic who has no interest in bettering himself- and why should he? He can walk all over you and you come back and say "please sir- may I have some more?"

Putting him out just may be the wake up call he needs. If not- much as I like MWD and her philosophy, not every marriage is worth saving.