Hopefor future, Surprisingly, my exH did obey the no-overnight guests rule...even after the divorce was final. My understanding when I was going through my separation and divorce is that it is a normal request that there not be members of the opposite sex staying overnight (unless they are married) when the children are present.
As for the drinking, my exH is an alcoholic. I asked for that clause because he has already had one accident because he was driving drunk. His DWI was reduced to careless and reckless. I could care less what he does when the kids are with me; but, when they are with him, I need to know that they are safe. Yes, it is difficult to enforce...in fact, I am dealing with that very issue right now. Just this past weekend, my exH took my 12-year old son to the coast 4 hours from home. While they were there, he drank at least 12 beer and then drove home (also drinking while he was driving). My son's cellphone battery was dead so he had no way of contacting me. What if my ex had had an accident on the way home and my son had been hurt or killed?
I'm not trying to create ill feelings between my ex, nor am I trying to control his life. I just want to know that he is not going to be drinking and driving w/ my children. Before he started drinking Saturday, he told my son he was going to drink and that he didn't have to tell his mom (me) everything.
