Nice to meet you BS--blue star! smile And thanks for the input Becca!

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He's forcefully taken over your time on Tuesday with the kids and is now referring to it as his time. From everything I've read, you never agreed to this.
That's right. I did agree to having him have the kids Sunday and Monday and every other weekend so less switching back and forth which he said was his reason (from switching from Wed. night and every other weekend). But b/c of Tues. activities switching the kids back and forth repeatedly Tues. doesn't make sense. And he is trying to increase his time from 1.5 to 3.5 days a week with suspicious timing.


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I think you need to send a response to the latest "obstruction" message. Be crystal clear that Tuesday is your time according to the schedule you both agreed to. You never agreed to switch Tues to his night. He is forcefully taking the kids against your agreement ie...picking them up from scheduled activities early in order to prevent you from having them, physically taking them from your moving car, yelling at you in public to intimidate you, etc. You are considering the saftey of your children and not intervening. However, that does not imply that you have agreed to this change. Be sure to copy your lawyer on it.

I have emailed X about 5 or 6 times saying that I haven't agreed to Tuesday night. I stopped at that point as being a cheeseless tunnel. I have emailed & talked to my L about the taking them from the moving car, yelling at me in public, etc. so she is aware of all that already. Do you think I need to reiterate this to him again just to put all of it in one email or something? I just generally have learned not to respond, and fan the flame of his constant anger. I think just b/c he puts it in an email doesn't make it true, and honestly if he is going to use his emails to me as proof of anything; I think he sounds like a vindictive angry nasty type of person, so I almost would think they might help my cause more than his...But maybe that's wishful thinking!

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