Maybe what you and Rob and O'dog are describing is just part of the process, though. Maybe you guys just naturally pull back, disconnect, take a break at times even though it seems counterintuitive and even though there is more emotion to be processed.
Could be self-protection too. Just don't want to get hurt anymore so we don't go there.
Sometimes it's not another negative experience that hurts but a positive one. It brings up emotions and memories of what used to exist.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
