First of all, there is no deadline. I wonder how much of your panic and overcontrol has been coming from an internal perception that there is.
Yes, yes I feel like i need to fix it now but I know I cannot. I wrote that in the journal I started today.
I do need to set some goals, I did write down in my journal that my first short term goal is to find the right things to to in order to keep her in the house. I cannot keep making mistakes that will push her further away and make her want to leave the house.
Other than that, goals for myself, I have not quite figured out yet but I am heading back to the bookstore now to pick up Co-Dependent No More: How to Quite Controlling Others.
One of her complaints is that I am controlling. I thought I was just being caring and helpful but she feels controlled. I don't want to be that type of person, especially if it hurts my wife.
