so I'm the artist, the mom. I am fluid and in the moment with my child. I sew and paint and play music and perform. I lose my phone or keys occaisionally, don't always get the library books back in time. He is precise, meets every deadline, and knows where all his stuff is at any moment. He sees it now that he is the most responsible person in our marriage. However, I see that I am the one who is responsible for taking care of the emotional world of our family - our marriage and our child. So he fails to see that we are each weak where the other is strong and that is what drew us together in the first place.
There are your 180s. You get organised and responsible. Let him carry some of the emotional load and play a little. It's the see-saw analogy in the DB book - he can't be relaxed because he has to be responsible and on top of everything. The other dynamic this brings in is a parent child dynamic which kills romance. Be partners while keeping your identities.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
