confused, I would bet the ranch that your W is interested in someone else. And if she wants her independence, by all means, GIVE IT TO HER!! Just don't subsidize it. Let the all-grown-up-now-I-see-the-light-and-I'm-not-ha-a-a-a-a-py WAW go forth in her shiny new life all by herself.
DO NOT LET HER CAKE-EAT!! EVER!!
After all, she doesn't love you anymore, remember? Why would she expect help from someone she so soundly rejected? That would make you a doormat. And you don't want to be seen as one of those. Women don't respect doormats.
The DB book is fairly worthless in so far as it is for marriages where both of you want to save it. However, very few couples realize they are in trouble until it is too late. At this point, I do not recommend DB book at all. So, if anyone wants to get the DB book, I have one, cheap.
The DR one is better for most of these sitches. Also, do not let your W know that you are reading these.
