Over the Shock and GALing 6

[AlexEN]

Thinker,

Your post reminded me of something I'd long-since forgotten. My W had always accused me of having "anger management" issues. So, we agreed to go see an "expert" together. Almost immediately, he started addressing her anger issues and mine were cast aside. He honed in on her (and her anger) and how it related to her FOO issues. Needless to say, she became very defensive (and angry) that he believed it was she who had the issues and my anger issues (despite what W had me believing about myself) were well within the "normal" range. In and of itself, there is nothing wrong with anger. How it manifests itself can be problematic. In any event, we stopped going soon thereafter, because at that point it all became "psychobabble" to her... Wonder if your C might notice the same in your W... Other scary similarity between your W and mine is the lengths to which my W went to undermine our New Beginnings Workshop program (a less religious version of Retrouvaille) and total unwillingness to "work" on her own issues... Doesn't answer your what letting go means question, but you're not alone in terms of the symptoms you are seeing...

-AlexEN