there's a form you can get her to sign which would allow you to discuss her with her psychiatrist. it's called a HIPAA release form. if she won't sign it, you can still give him information, but he can't talk to you. if he won't get on the phone with you, you can send him a certified letter with your concerns. he needs to be informed she's gone off her meds.
what meds is she on? ADs don't usually cause weight gain. it's the mood stabilizers prescribed for BP that do (lithium, depakote/valproate, etc.). anti psychotics do this too, but she's probably not taking one of those.
you have some leverage here. you could make it a condition of reconciliation that she sign the HIPAA form and allow you to participate in her mental health decisions.
good luck.
me 30 WAW 30 M 8 yrs T 9.5 yrs
3 cats 9,6,6
W left 5/31/09 W stopped most contact 06/26/09 W filed 7/22/09 (haven't been served)
