So far the new plan is working. It's only been in place a few days so only time can tell.
She's been sleeping on the couch so I confronted her yesterday about what she's doing. I asked if staying on the couch was going to be a permanent thing. Her reply was "I don't know." Instead taking that as an answer I told her I wanted a Yes or no answer. I told her how I thought it was unfair for all the uncertainy this type of answer can cause. So I asked is it a yes or no. She replied No.
When I asked if she was coming to bed tonight she said I guess. I came back with then this means no. Her answer was then okay it's a no. I told her a no is better than a maybe or I guess or anything like that. The I asked her one more time yes or no are you coming to bed tonight? She said yes.
I would have thought she would have shut down for the rest of the evening. Instead we watch a regular television show together. She told me she didn't like what was on and it was creeping her out. I asked why it was creeping her out. She said she didn't know why. So I asked if it was because of all the violence in this epidsode. No not that she came back. It's more of the setting, it's too much like home. Oh I said, I can understand how this would bother you - here you can watch something we both like.
She changed the channel and we watched a show we both could enjoy. Now and then she would bring up things that were on her mind. I listened to what she had to say and did my best to actively listen. The day went well and then she told me she had to go out. Oh okay (it was late)well it's getting cold you better bundle up. She stayed around longer and I had the feeling she wouldn't have mind staying around. She then left and gave me a quick peck on the lips.
I don't know what time she came home but it was late. She slipped into bed and fell fast asleep snoring away.
