I have a very good friend who lives in Texas, in a suburb of Houston and her and her H are going through a divorce. However, via the courts they were able to put a temporary separation order in place. Now it might not be offically called a "legal separation" but temporary orders for custody, support/insurance and who gets to stay in the marriage home can be ordered via the courts. Dont say it cant because it can. They had a court date and everything and it was all made official.
It doesnt have the same "rules" as NY but it is in fact a form of a formal separation agreement...it just might not be called that. So unless the rules of Houston and Dallas differ greatly then I would check into that more. In fact, when I speak to her again I will ask her what it is called in Texas.
The covenant you made with God doesn't go away until one of you passes away.
This man is nothing more than a wolf in sheeps clothing. I have no intention of making my W's life miserable. But my kids are not going to grow up thinking this man is worth their respect. He is not worth their respect if he is willing to step in and help keep my kids world torn apart.
I will never be buddies with any man that tries to do that. You can think what you want. But these men and women that do this are nothing more than theives. They are not worth respecting no matter how friendly they may come across. If they had any honor to them at all, they would find their own covenant S and not further help tear apart another family.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
It is easy to judge someone and label them as evil. But you dont walk in their shoes.
Their shoes need to be walking in another direction and not into a family that is not theirs.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I have a very good friend who lives in Texas, in a suburb of Houston and her and her H are going through a divorce. However, via the courts they were able to put a temporary separation order in place. Now it might not be offically called a "legal separation" but temporary orders for custody, support/insurance and who gets to stay in the marriage home can be ordered via the courts. Dont say it cant because it can. They had a court date and everything and it was all made official.
It doesnt have the same "rules" as NY but it is in fact a form of a formal separation agreement...it just might not be called that. So unless the rules of Houston and Dallas differ greatly then I would check into that more. In fact, when I speak to her again I will ask her what it is called in Texas.
CG,
I appreciate that. Nobody made me aware of that here and I talked to 2 L's.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
So if your kids had a teacher that had to leave in the middle of the school year and a sub teacher came in, you would say its ok for them to have NO respect for the new teacher because it wasnt the original one?
See, with kids, when you say its okay to disrespect one adult you are basically telling them its okay to do that on a situational basis and that will only help breed a lifetime of trouble for them.
A stepfather is not tearing a family apart. First of all, your W could not get married to somebody else if she is still married to you. So, you would be divorced. End of story. You and your W tore your family apart by having poor communication and being lazy. Not all her, not all you, two to tango.
You still have a family = you and your kids. If you W chooses to build a new family once you are divorced then that is how it will be. Nobody tore yours apart except you and your W.
Just like nobody tore MY marriage apart except me and my H.
You dont pick and choose respect. How would you like it if your W told her new husband NOT to respect her kids and treat them like crap? Would that be okay with you? I doubt it. Think about that.
A stepfather is stomping on a covenant M. We have a covenant M. D by a court means nothing. If W were to remarry OM, she would be doing nothing more than committing legalized adultery.
As far as the teacher goes, I get your point. However, the teacher is not a covenant H or W and blood parent to the kid.
Yes me and my W tore out family apart together. But we still have a covenant M and any man that tries to step on it is not worthy of anyone's respect. I don't care how "nice" he appears to be. He is stepping into sacred territory and stomping on it. So no, I do not expect my kids to treat him with respect at all given his place in OUR family and OUR covenant M.
And if he treats my kids with disrespect, my W will handle that. She will D him. After all, vows mean nothing to her now. It won't last long.
Any man that comes into our family is nothing more than a selfish immoral evil theif. Niceness is nothing more than a disguise for the evil he is really committing against us.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
By the way, I am not judging him. I am calling him what he is.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
These are my beliefs and feelings. I don't take kindly to someone else coming in to try and further stomp on our covenant M.
My kids won't either.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I wont go round and round with you about this. I shared a very personal story with you and you essentially are saying that the man who held me and my sisters hand while we watched our dad die is sh*it because two DIVORCED adults decided to get married.
Nice.
BTW, my mom and stepdad go to Bible study once a week. My stepdad is the organist for the church choir and they attend mass weekly. They got married in a church. Clearly they are evil, disgusting people.
You are unreal.
When I had to submit all my paperwork to my attny I brought our marriage license issues by NY and the church certificate. Church certifications dont mean squat in court. He didnt want that - all he needed was the NY state one.
You are so preachy but yet so judgemental. I dont know how you dont see that.
